I DO! tips #17 Yichud “Togetherness”

I thought it would be nice to provide a few helpful planning tips for the Jewish Bride. There are so many things that you are thinking about during this time, that it is so easy to leave something out. Here are just a few things to keep in mind and to discuss with your Rabbi and FH to make sure you need them.

Below I’ve listed just a few of the many traditions and the purpose/meaning

Some of the items listed can be purchased from Amada Events & Designs or many of our preferred vendors. Do not hesitate to ask us, that’s what we are here for. HAPPY PLANNING!!!

For All Weddings:

  • Gold wedding rings
  • Tallit
  • Ketubah
  • Acid-free archival pens
  • Kiddush cups (you need 1, but you can bring 2)
  • White wine
  • Glass to break (light bulb and/or decorative glass)
  • Glass breaking bag
  • Yarmulkes
  • Marriage license (bring 2 extra copies)
  • Challah (make sure to place your order with enough time)

For a More Traditional Wedding:

  • Food and beverages for tish
  • Chair for bedeken
  • Ceramic plate for mothers to break
  • Hammer for plate
  • Programs
  • Basket for programs
  • Easel for ketubah (check with venue)
  • Challah

Ketubah The marriage contract (ketubah) specifies the couple’s commitment to each other. The ketubah was signed during a ceremony before the wedding service and contains the signatures of the bride and groom as well as two witnesses who are Jewish and not blood relatives. The rabbi has also signed and dated the ketubah to make it official.

Bedeken The bedeken is the veiling ceremony during which the groom placed a veil over the bride. This ceremony took place privately and is considered one of the most moving elements of a traditional Jewish wedding. By covering his bride with a veil, the groom ascertained her identity, and confirmed that he is marrying the woman of his heart’s desire.

Chuppah The chuppah is a canopy that symbolizes the home that the bride and groom will build together. The chuppah is open on all sides, also symbolizing that friends and family are always welcome in the newlyweds’ home.

Hakafot The bride circles the groom (hakafot) seven times. Two interpretations of the significance: seven is the number of days of creation, and the wedding ceremony is the creation of a new household; seven is the number of times the phrase “when a man takes a wife” occurs in the Torah.

Wrapping the Tallit During the final benediction, the couple is wrapped by a tallit (prayer shawl) around their shoulders. This wrapping symbolizes the private Jewish life the bride and groom will have together.

Breaking of the Glass The wedding ceremony concludes with the groom breaking a glass under his foot. There are many significances behind this custom. One of them is that it is a reminder that relationships are as fragile as glass and must always be treated with care, love and respect. After the breaking of the glass, the guests yell, “Mazel Tov!” which means good luck.

Yichud After the chuppah ceremony, the couple is escorted to a private room and left alone for a few minutes. These moments of seclusion signify their new status of living together as husband and wife.


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